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Monday, March 22, 2010

Friends!!!



Friends are life...period!!!


I would have no idea how a life would be without friends.. and am sure we all feel that. They make our life worth living. Most of the time we share more with them then our own families. Age / Caste has nothing to do when we be friends with anyone. 

In this networking era...I guess we have more friends online then in real.. we wish more mornings / evenings then we do to our family and real friends..Online friends know more about our mood and day plans then our real ones.. The minute we go low..all need to do is tweet or ping and get back swinging like a ping pong ball. Life couldn't be this easy. 

People come and people go...but foot prints always stay by. Never had many friends ..always had few but really good friends..say best friends..its always hard when they leave your side. As I always say  " Its easy to start and end a relation, difficult is how we manage it " . Its more tough when you know you did so much for that friend and then still you are left yearning for more. 

I had this friend of mine...met her at some accounts classes more then a decade back. She happened to stay near my place.. and so we got to know each other and hit off well. Those days I had a Kinetic (awesome fun) so when we knew we stayed closer to each other  I kinda with a good gesture offered a lift home. She was glad about it and I too got a company home.. Slowly as the time passed by I got to know her more.. She came from a very middle class family and kind of 8 people stayed in a room as a big as I had my kitchen. But I never looked at that when I make friends with anyone.. Especially after knowing her more I always offered help in all means I could ever. I was born and brought up very much with a silver spoon in my mouth. I think of something and dad would get it...glad I never misused that luxury. So as time passed by we had these HSC boards exams. She used to find a lot of trouble at her place studying with other 7 people in the house and the tensions brewing with all of them individually. I offered her to come over my place and study with me. We have a big apartment and just 4 of us living, so would have been no issues to study here. 


She was very glad with this gesture.. my parents also took good care of her especially all the days when we had exams, she had stayed at my place. Days went on.. and till our final year exams.. all of them she appeared from my place. All this long we had become best of friends..family knew each other...such good friends that whenever dad used to get any movie / play tickets..hers was there by default. So is those times when we used to have family lunches or dinners she was at default invited. For her I was the one soul with who she could laugh with, cry with and share everything under the sun and feel nice. So was for me after a while. She became more like a sister then just a best friend. A day came when her father pressured her for marriage, as she came from a typical marwari family..she dint have much say. She used to land up at my place and cry over the issues..while her wedding  I helped her a lot..been with her all thru her ups and downs last few years..


She wasn't much happy with her marriage. All she did was a compromise for her father and their financial status. She needed a shoulder to cry on and that for sure was mine. But times changed.. things stared going very well with her. I was very happy for her. I always wanted her to have the best as I had seen her go thru some tough times in life. 


Its a tendency I feel to forget people in their good times. She was for sure one of them. As things started sailing smooth for her..she din't need me as a anchor in her life. And that did hurt me a lot. It still haunts me as in when we do so much for someone..then we are no one for that person anymore. The number of calls started reducing, the meet ups reduced, especially at a time when I needed a friend and when I was going thru some personal crises. I wonder how can she forget all the help given to her all the while when she needed them the most. Best of friends at once, today we don't even call up each other. For few years we just wished each other on birthdays and now thats even a far off thing for us. Not only with her I came across a similar situation 2-3 times more. I wonder why people do this, as I remember I never behaved like that with anyone. 


Now I don't believe in the term best friends. I am the same to everyone. Need help and I am there. In this way things are easy to perceive. Easy to take in when things are rough. Less expectations makes it more easy to maintain. And with so many networking sites all over us..come across so many people..so many beautiful people..made some very very close friends too.. but I still miss my best pals..no one can fill in those spaces left by them. 


People come and people go...as long as I have left a good mark in everyone's life..I would never have regrets!!!
 



Tuesday, March 16, 2010

All we do now is tweet - poke -ping




I remember a decade back when I was done with my graduation and GNIIT, Dad had promised me a desktop. After a lot of pleading and harassing him hehe…he got me one..some where in July.

I had this Techie / Gadget fever all life long. But the real fun started in life when I got earning well to manage my fever by myself J. I was completely glued to my new desktop. Got my self a 100 hrs account from MTNL ( gosh now am online 24/7 and still at times find it less). Within no time the hours were done. They dint come cheap. Plead a lot to dad for a recharge of the same & got thru.

Now when I look back a 100 hrs for some odd days and now being online over ISDN / Broadband lines for almost 24/7, kinda crazy. Those days when young used ICQ/ Hotmail / India times for chats / emails etc.. made some awesome friends with who am still in touch with..and slowly using India times  / ICQ became passé. Then came in MTNL broadband..awesome connectivity compared to those modem days. And came in Google..the mother of all. I really cant recollect a single day not using once also in a day..since I got familiar with it, be it on my lappie or mobile.

Soon the world got in to networking trend. Came in Orkut / Facebook..Orkut started loosing its fame since facebook tookover..Another heaps of networking sites came up.. I must have registered with so many..and now wont even remember the same. Face book helped me in connecting with so many old friends…and all my cousins with who I wouldn’t talk for days / years. Share thoughts / holiday plans and so much more. Kinda made me lazy as never landed up calling many of them. Just all I did was poked poked n pinged!!! Even on birthdays..all we do is post it on the wall..and am sure this is the story of us all in this era.

Throw in Twitter then…a 140 chrac tool has taken the world for a nice ride. Started with just few followers and in the run now I got odd 500. Am still not sure do I tweet sense…I wish Gm to almost all I know on twitter..but sadly I never wished like that to my parents / cousins…

Twitter is one place where friends are made not by the way they look and by their age …but by how their mindsets are, what they really think about anything in general. Made amazing contacts / well networked… A place to share happiness n sadness in just 140 charcs ..sometimes more faster then I would do with parents too.

The last decade has changed so much and so have we. We know and have networked with so many people…and wonder how many we really relate to, how many times we are real, how many times do we express real feelings. So many times when am sad too I still tweet happy stuff..and am sure many of us do that… I still wish to go back a few years where life was so different..As now most of the time we do is tweet..poke n ping……

















Thursday, March 11, 2010

A Newborn's Conversation With God!

 

A  baby asked God, "They tell me you are sending me  to earth tomorrow,  
buthow am I going to live there  being so small and helpless?"

God said,  "Your angel will be waiting for you and will  take care of you."

The child further  inquired, "But tell me, here in heaven I don't  have
todo anything  but sing and smile to be happy.."

God  said, "Your angel will sing for you and will  also smile for you.
And you will feel your  angel's love and be very happy."

Again  the small child asked, "And how am I going to be  able to understand  
whenpeople talk to me if I don't  know the language?"

God said, "Your  angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet  words
youwill ever  hear, and with much patience and care, your  angel will
teach you how to speak."  

"And what am I going to do when I want  to talk to you?"

God said, "Your angel  will place your hands together and will teach
youhow to pray."  

"Who will protect me?"

God said,  "Your angel will defend you even if it means  risking its life."

"But I will always be  sad because I will not see you anymore."  

God said, "Your angel will always talk  to you about Me and will teach  
youthe way to come back to Me, even  though I will always be next to you."

At  that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but  voices from Earth  
couldbe heard and the child  hurriedly asked, "God, if I am to leave
now,  please tell me my angel's name."

God  said, You will simply call her  ,"  Mom ."

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

U & Me


There were times when we were mad

There were times when we were sad


Crazy days & crazy evenings

Everyday was just a new beginning


And now we are miles apart

Never knew we would be torn apart


As I turn the pages of life

Recall every moment in sight


Realize the happiness we shared

And moments for which tears we shed


Its now so hard to find the perfect breeze

Which you & me did ever feel


Someday I hope we can meet
To hug & laugh & dance to the old beat



Wednesday, March 3, 2010

So why am I the one to die?



Came across these nice lines..thought would be great to share :


I went to a party Mom,
I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom,
So I drank soda instead.

I really felt proud inside, Mom,
The way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom,
Even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom,
I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom,
As everyone is driving out of sight.

As I got into my car, Mom,
I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me,
So responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom,
But as I pulled out into the road,
The other car didn't see me, Mom,
And hit me like a load.

As I lay there on the pavement, Mom,
I hear the policeman say,
"The other guy is drunk," Mom,
And now I'm the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom....
I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom?
My life just burst like a balloon.

There is blood all around me, Mom,
And most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom,
I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom,
I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others, Mom.
The others didn't think.

He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank
And I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom?
It can ruin your whole life.
I'm feeling sharp pains now.
Pains just like a knife.

The guy who hit me is walking, Mom,
And I don't think it's fair.
I'm lying here dying
And all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom.
Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom,
Put "GOOD BOY " on my grave.

Someone should have told him, Mom,
Not to drink and drive.
If only they had told him, Mom,
I would still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter, Mom..
I'm becoming very scared.
Please don't cry for me, Mom.
When I needed you, you were always there.

I have one last question, Mom.
Before I say good bye.
I didn't drink and drive,
So why am I the one to die?