Friends are life...period!!!
In this networking era...I guess we have more friends online then in real.. we wish more mornings / evenings then we do to our family and real friends..Online friends know more about our mood and day plans then our real ones.. The minute we go low..all need to do is tweet or ping and get back swinging like a ping pong ball. Life couldn't be this easy.
People come and people go...but foot prints always stay by. Never had many friends ..always had few but really good friends..say best friends..its always hard when they leave your side. As I always say " Its easy to start and end a relation, difficult is how we manage it " . Its more tough when you know you did so much for that friend and then still you are left yearning for more.
I had this friend of mine...met her at some accounts classes more then a decade back. She happened to stay near my place.. and so we got to know each other and hit off well. Those days I had a Kinetic (awesome fun) so when we knew we stayed closer to each other I kinda with a good gesture offered a lift home. She was glad about it and I too got a company home.. Slowly as the time passed by I got to know her more.. She came from a very middle class family and kind of 8 people stayed in a room as a big as I had my kitchen. But I never looked at that when I make friends with anyone.. Especially after knowing her more I always offered help in all means I could ever. I was born and brought up very much with a silver spoon in my mouth. I think of something and dad would get it...glad I never misused that luxury. So as time passed by we had these HSC boards exams. She used to find a lot of trouble at her place studying with other 7 people in the house and the tensions brewing with all of them individually. I offered her to come over my place and study with me. We have a big apartment and just 4 of us living, so would have been no issues to study here.
She was very glad with this gesture.. my parents also took good care of her especially all the days when we had exams, she had stayed at my place. Days went on.. and till our final year exams.. all of them she appeared from my place. All this long we had become best of friends..family knew each other...such good friends that whenever dad used to get any movie / play tickets..hers was there by default. So is those times when we used to have family lunches or dinners she was at default invited. For her I was the one soul with who she could laugh with, cry with and share everything under the sun and feel nice. So was for me after a while. She became more like a sister then just a best friend. A day came when her father pressured her for marriage, as she came from a typical marwari family..she dint have much say. She used to land up at my place and cry over the issues..while her wedding I helped her a lot..been with her all thru her ups and downs last few years..
She wasn't much happy with her marriage. All she did was a compromise for her father and their financial status. She needed a shoulder to cry on and that for sure was mine. But times changed.. things stared going very well with her. I was very happy for her. I always wanted her to have the best as I had seen her go thru some tough times in life.
Its a tendency I feel to forget people in their good times. She was for sure one of them. As things started sailing smooth for her..she din't need me as a anchor in her life. And that did hurt me a lot. It still haunts me as in when we do so much for someone..then we are no one for that person anymore. The number of calls started reducing, the meet ups reduced, especially at a time when I needed a friend and when I was going thru some personal crises. I wonder how can she forget all the help given to her all the while when she needed them the most. Best of friends at once, today we don't even call up each other. For few years we just wished each other on birthdays and now thats even a far off thing for us. Not only with her I came across a similar situation 2-3 times more. I wonder why people do this, as I remember I never behaved like that with anyone.
Now I don't believe in the term best friends. I am the same to everyone. Need help and I am there. In this way things are easy to perceive. Easy to take in when things are rough. Less expectations makes it more easy to maintain. And with so many networking sites all over us..come across so many people..so many beautiful people..made some very very close friends too.. but I still miss my best pals..no one can fill in those spaces left by them.
People come and people go...as long as I have left a good mark in everyone's life..I would never have regrets!!!
She was very glad with this gesture.. my parents also took good care of her especially all the days when we had exams, she had stayed at my place. Days went on.. and till our final year exams.. all of them she appeared from my place. All this long we had become best of friends..family knew each other...such good friends that whenever dad used to get any movie / play tickets..hers was there by default. So is those times when we used to have family lunches or dinners she was at default invited. For her I was the one soul with who she could laugh with, cry with and share everything under the sun and feel nice. So was for me after a while. She became more like a sister then just a best friend. A day came when her father pressured her for marriage, as she came from a typical marwari family..she dint have much say. She used to land up at my place and cry over the issues..while her wedding I helped her a lot..been with her all thru her ups and downs last few years..
She wasn't much happy with her marriage. All she did was a compromise for her father and their financial status. She needed a shoulder to cry on and that for sure was mine. But times changed.. things stared going very well with her. I was very happy for her. I always wanted her to have the best as I had seen her go thru some tough times in life.
Its a tendency I feel to forget people in their good times. She was for sure one of them. As things started sailing smooth for her..she din't need me as a anchor in her life. And that did hurt me a lot. It still haunts me as in when we do so much for someone..then we are no one for that person anymore. The number of calls started reducing, the meet ups reduced, especially at a time when I needed a friend and when I was going thru some personal crises. I wonder how can she forget all the help given to her all the while when she needed them the most. Best of friends at once, today we don't even call up each other. For few years we just wished each other on birthdays and now thats even a far off thing for us. Not only with her I came across a similar situation 2-3 times more. I wonder why people do this, as I remember I never behaved like that with anyone.
Now I don't believe in the term best friends. I am the same to everyone. Need help and I am there. In this way things are easy to perceive. Easy to take in when things are rough. Less expectations makes it more easy to maintain. And with so many networking sites all over us..come across so many people..so many beautiful people..made some very very close friends too.. but I still miss my best pals..no one can fill in those spaces left by them.
People come and people go...as long as I have left a good mark in everyone's life..I would never have regrets!!!
8 Comments:
It is pretty sad when best frenz depart and never keep in touch...Ive had frenz with whom i make it a point to talk or even use FB to stay in touch...But nuthin can bridge the gap tween a long lost frenz :)
With the time, everybody changes. Some for good, some for your growth and some for very beautiful realizations.
Most important is how we take those changes. I see that you have accepted that with grace. Very nice.
Very impressive article! - Reminds me of my good old friends and the time we spend in the college days!
Some times, few people do not value the importance of a person and it happens with most of them!
So real
so true
so sad...
only three things that came to my mind no reading this.. looks like we can write a book on "Such"friends!!! wanted to write a post tonite, but sleep taking over.. so tomorrow it shall happen
Just be thankful for the friends u have around u now and dont worry abt the ones that went their way...[thats wot i tell myself :)]
we know everybody has a friend like that...but the words "People come and people go...as long as I have left a good mark in everyone's life..I would never have regrets!!!" is so true and not many ppl have that attitude..
Thank you all for your sweet comments :) They matter :)
When you make friends don't expect anything from them...... Then only you will be a gud friend to others. Make yourself as a best friend of your own and other just only Friends. Expectation leads to unexpected things. In joy no one knows you but in sorrow you hunt all your old and new friends. Thats the truth of Life. Its Bitter but true.
Loved it !!!!
You write awesome. keep up the spirit dear!
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